Does Your Child Have Yo-Yo Self-Esteem? Part 2

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In the last article we asked the question, does your child have yo-yo self-esteem? Recall that Yo-yo self-esteem occurs when children’s self-esteem rises and falls with the ups and downs of their lives (i.e. how they did in school, played in their soccer game, etc.).

We talked about how important it is for children to base their self-esteem on who they are and not on what is happening outside of them so that their self-esteem remains intact no matter what is going on in their lives.

Today we’ll learn three additional tips for supporting your kids in developing solid self-esteem that doesn’t rise and fall with the ups and downs of life:

  • The fourth tip is to encourage your kids to identify and honour their own uniqueness. We are all unique in our own special way. Have your kids brainstorm what they love about themselves – from their values to their character, to their gifts and talents. Have them make an “I love me!” poster which illustrates what they love about themselves. When kids focus on what they love about themselves, their self-esteem will soar.
  • Fifth, talk with them about the power of positive self-talk. What they say to themselves is more important than what anyone else says to them. When kids learn to talk to themselves with love, compassion, and support, their self-esteem will soar.
  • Finally, teach your children how to handle the “downs” in life. Teach them how to manage mistakes and failure so that they don’t define themselves by these events. Teach them how to manage fear so that fear doesn’t keep them from their dreams. Teach them how to manage change so they feel powerful in their lives and see themselves as capable and worthy.

Learning to handle the “downs” in life as events, not only enhances self-esteem, but also leads to powerful self-confidence as kids learn that they can handle anything that comes their way.

As we mentioned in the last article no matter how much we love our kids or how much time we spend with them, we can’t give them self-esteem, but what we can do is help them develop it in themselves. Start this week by sharing the six tips from these two articles.

If you’re ready to help your child bust out of his shyness, click here for a complimentary consultation and we’ll map out a plan to help him create confidence and courage.

Jahseen Foster  is a certified WISDOM Coach and expert in helping kids discover who I am a certified WISDOM Coach and who can  help your child develop powerful mindset skills using:

  • Coaching stories
  • Engaging questions
  • Activities/Art projects
    visit us at: www.tenyourmind.comwww.coachjahseen.cominstagram@coachjahseen

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Copyright © 2012-2024 Renaye Thornborrow, Adventures in WisdomTM. All rights reserved. 

Our Overcoming People Pleasing Habits

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I was the people-pleaser for most of my life until I got sick of being in a cycle of burning out. I constantly gave too much of myself away, leaving little left to keep me going. I knew I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life living in a way that was so damaging to my sense of worth and identity.

I finally, started a process of addressing this, when I hired a life coach who managed to take me on a magnificent mindfulness journey. I was able to find my authentic self and started enjoying my life free of people-pleasing habits,

Fast forwarding to now, I decided to train to become a life coach to ensure I was able to assist my clients at deeper level. I have interwoven my educational insight and experience as an educator/children-certified WISDOM life coach, along with my training and personal learning, to create this simple yet effective course to help you overcome your people pleasing habits.

I haven’t designed this course to stop you from being
nice, not at all!! Nor will you suddenly transform into an overwhelming, loudmouth having discovered your newfound confidence. It’s designed to address people-pleasing and increase sense of self and identity. It’s designed to strengthen your voice and encourage you to recognise that it has value, as do you.

This course is available in audio format as well as E-book format I hope you enjoy this course,

Let’s get started.

If you’re ready to help your child bust out of his shyness, click here for a complimentary consultation and we’ll map out a plan to help him create confidence and courage.

Jahseen Foster  is a certified WISDOM Coach and expert in helping kids discover who I am a certified WISDOM Coach and who can  help your child develop powerful mindset skills using:

  • Coaching stories
  • Engaging questions
  • Activities/Art projects
    visit us at: www.tenyourmind.comwww.coachjahseen.cominstagram@coachjahseen

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Copyright © 2012-2024 Renaye Thornborrow, Adventures in WisdomTM. All rights reserved. 

Does Your Child Have Yo-Yo Self-Esteem?

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Yo-Yo Self-Esteem?

Does your child’s self-esteem rise and fall with the grades she makes?

Does your child’s self-esteem rise and fall depending on who played with him at school that day?

Does your child’s self-esteem crumble if he makes a mistake?

If so, then your child is suffering from yo-yo self-esteem — self-esteem that rises and falls with the ups and downs of life. Ultimately, how children feel about themselves often depends on what is going on in their life – what is going on outside of them.

However, powerful self-esteem isn’t based on what is going on outside of you (what is happening in your life). Powerful self-esteem is based on what is going on inside of you — who you are and how you think about yourself.

When children base their self-esteem on “who they are” then their self-esteem can remain intact no matter what is going on in their lives.

So if your child have yo-yo self-esteem, how do you help them shift from external focus to internal focus?

Here are the first three of six tips for helping your kids develop solid self-esteem that doesn’t rise and fall with the ups and downs of life:

  1. First talk with them about what self-esteem is. Teach them that self-esteem is based on who they are, not what they do.
  2. Second, teach them how to separate the results of an event from who they are. For example, if they fail a test, that is just an event – something that happened. Just because they failed a test, doesn’t mean they are a failure. It just means they didn’t learn the material well enough to get the right answers on the majority of the questions – that’s it. Let your kids know that it’s OK to feel down; however, there is a difference between feeling down about a bad grade and feeling down on yourself because of a bad grade. Help your children understand this distinction and their self-esteem will flourish.
  3. Third, teach them about the dangers of comparison. When kids compare themselves to others – seeing themselves as “better than” or “less than” another, they are looking externally to determine how to feel about themselves. This sets them up for yo-yo self-esteem because they will feel good about themselves whenever they see themselves as “better than” another and they will feel bad about themselves every time they see themselves as “less than” another. This not only devastates self-esteem, but also creates jealousy, resentment, and a belief system of “not good enough”.

Unfortunately, self-esteem isn’t something you can give your kids; however, it is something you can teach them to develop in themselves. Start today by sharing these first three tips with them. In the next article we will cover the last three tips. a

If you’re ready to help your child bust out of his shyness, click here for a complimentary consultation and we’ll map out a plan to help him create confidence and courage.

Jahseen Foster  is a certified WISDOM Coach and expert in helping kids discover who I am a certified WISDOM Coach and who can  help your child develop powerful mindset skills using:

  • Coaching stories
  • Engaging questions
  • Activities/Art projects
    visit us at: www.tenyourmind.comwww.coachjahseen.cominstagram@coachjahseen

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Copyright © 2012-2024 Renaye Thornborrow, Adventures in WisdomTM. All rights reserved.